NO you don't sound like a BRAT...you sound like you just paid good money for a Horrible Haircut. And it makes me ticked because they get away with it. They talk, and chat, and walk around, take phone calls, while trying to remember what the hell they are doing to your hair...Often times a trim ends up to be 3-6 inches....AND it isn't suppossed to be....Then you pay them for your dissappointment and tip them to boot....and say THANK YOU.....POOH on THAT....Well, first of all, knowing what to tell the stylist helps.....you probably wanted just a TRIM....asked for a CUT and got a CHOP JOB. I must say that more experienced stylists in longevity and AGE often do know how to trim curly hair...And since my Husband has Natural Curly hair and has had dozens of terribly uneven hair cuts.....I bought him a Flowbee Haircutting System, and using the vacuum he cuts his own hair perfectly and has for nearly 15 years. It always comes out soft nice and curly. Now what to do with yours....WELL.....you have tried a few things and it isn't pleasing you. I have been there....so many times.....And for many years now, I just cut my own or as I have done for the last few years NOT cut it. Cept for my bangs. And yes I cut the back too. I can cut my own short style as well. It is below shoulder blades now.
Now for you. Well, to have wispy bangs I find using a pair of thinning shears to thin out the lower 1 1/2 " to the bottom straight part works well. Also, I gather my bangs side, the middle, then the other side all at once keeping all the hair where it is supposed to be but just bunched between my 2 fingers like they do in the salon....(Not straight across your face like they hang down) (mohawk) then I pull up towards the top of my head and out straight and firm and trim about 1/3" and let go and see if that is short enough. I will re-do this 2-3 times if necessary until I get the desired effect. You need a NEW SHARP THIN BLADED pair of scissors to cut your own hair, and use them only for hair....NEVER anything else.
This will help your bangs, as it helps to eliminate some of the bulk. Just do a little at a time, and check each time, repeat, until it looks fine to you. ALSO, if there is too much hair from the top of your head cut into bangs, use a rattail comb and separate out the bangs you want then let the rest grow out as it should be. It doesn't look right (to me anyway) if there is too much bangs. Bangs I think should only be the front 1/2" at the most or just a bit less.... A layered curly look is fantastic if it is done the right way and not too short. Maybe if the top is layered better you can mousse and scrunch it for some height, at the same time you blowdry it to hold it....Re wet it and do it again until it looks good and lays right...
YOU can go back to the salon, and ask for someone to try to fix what another screwed up it should be free.. I have even gone back the same stylist to have her fix what she did.....I show them it is uneven......and often I have good luck the 2nd time....That is when I quit going tho....When a stylist starts telling me what I want.....it is time to get out of the chair.....and go... I have done that too....forget the haircut. ALSO, IF THE STYLIST IS TALKING UP A STORM MAKING CASUAL CONVERSATION.....Let her/him know that you would prefer to just watch her cut your hair....that way you have more control and she is paying attention. Hope this helps Sweetie......